“Life is what happens to you when you’re busy making other plans.” — John Lennon
Hellooooo, blogging world! I’ve been gone from my own site for a bit, but with good reason (don’t I always have a good reason?). In the past three and a half months, I’ve gotten engaged to the Hunky Foreman (is he now the Hunky Fiance?), moved in with him, and landed a book contract with my friend Kylee Baumle of Our Little Acre (details forthcoming!). I also graduated my younger son, Luke, from high school and moved my older son, Max, home for the summer. And sold a house. After I fixed it up. Oh, and Luke had his Eagle Scout Court of Honor. Yes, I’ve been busy!
But, as a gardener, a huge chunk of my life has been missing. I lost many of my plants from the apartment–I just got so busy during the packing and moving that I didn’t properly care for them. When I moved to the Hunky Foreman’s house, I was preoccupied with unpacking and making his place “our place.” But no plants.
I thought, “I’ll spend this summer redesigning the vegetable garden,” but that has yet to happen. And I was reminded throughout this whole experience that plants aren’t just for looking at or for eating–they are integral to our sense of well-being, balance and soulfulness. Maybe you’ve had a similar experience? You’ve moved, gotten sick, got married, had a baby, buried a loved one, started a new job–any number of happy and challenging life changes–and you’ve struggled to keep up with your garden in the midst of it. No worries; you’re not alone.
Here are some ideas:
- Change your attitude. Not that you have a bad one, but you just have to give yourself a break. You’re not Super Woman/Man no matter what you or anyone else thinks. Neither am I. Some things will be let go, others re-prioritized. Know what is most important, focus on that and don’t beat yourself up. If your energy is going into caring for a new baby, that’s much more important than sowing your vegetable seeds according to a chart.
- Get some help. If you can’t care for some of your plants, ask a friend for help. It doesn’t need to be forever, just for a little while. “Hey, Bubba? I am so overwhelmed this month with my new job; will you come over and help me get my vegetable garden planted? I’ll share the bounty with you!”
- Don’t start anything new. I know, we gardeners love to tinker and try new projects. You’ve seen that pallet garden on Pinterest and you’re just dying to try it. But don’t. Unless you want a string of unfinished projects along with making yourself crazy. Put your efforts into simply maintaining what you have instead. And just to encourage you, I am not creating a hyperlink to that Pinterest project.
- Focus on one small area. Instead of redesigning the vegetable garden or building the chicken coop, I focused on our front porch. It’s a long porch, and it only took a little time to add some planters, arrange chairs, lay down the outdoor rugs that I had from my balcony garden and set up the fountain I had on hand. Now our front porch is charming and inviting, and my only garden chore is watering my porch plants. Perfect? Nope. But it’s good enough.